Let us begin with the word harmony. Harmony is defined as lack of conflict, internal calm, and both parts/parties working together as one. I want to note that, for one to create harmony with another person/spirit; one MUST create harmony within themselves first!! If you cannot achieve harmony (internal calmness) you will not be able to organically and honestly offer/create harmony with another person. Now, taking our awareness to the word relationship. A relationship is defined as the state of being related or interrelated. When we bring these two words/energies together we’re able to create a holistic relationship (a relationship that is whole).
We can create harmony in all our relationships, not just a spouse! Mother/child, father/child, friendship, sibling, neighbor, co-worker, partner, higher-self (yes you can indeed have a relationship with your higher-self, and it will be one of the most important relationships you will ever experience!!), etc. It’s also important to note that even if you’re in the space to create harmony within the relationship, the other party must also be able/willing to do so as well! As stated at the beginning of this blog, harmony is when two parts/parties are working together!! One person alone, cannot create the energy of harmony. It takes two! If you’re truly doing the work on yourself and the person you want to create harmony with is unable to reciprocate the same energy, know that at this moment, healing is needed on their behalf and that working together to create anything (at that moment) may not be realistic. In relationships, it’s important to be realistic and to set boundaries. If you are no longer accepting unbalanced/unhealthy energy, drama, etc., and seeking only positive energy and harmony, if the other party in the relationship is unable to reciprocate, then you should review your relationships and determine which are serving you and which are not! When you release what no longer serves you, you will create the space of allowing more relationships. Now when it comes to creating harmony with your children, you must have patience. You will also have to model this behavior and teach them how to do so. Children’s minds are like sponges, they will absorb what they see and then copy/role-play what they see/experience. If you want your child/ren to develop this healthy and important life skill, simply do the work within yourself and create harmony with others, and only then will you be able to create harmony with your child!
We’re going to go deeper to see the steps that are needed to improve the energy in all your relationships, by creating harmony! Here are the steps you can take within yourself and in your relationships to create harmony.
Do the work within yourself first. Connecting with your higher- self and creating harmony will allow the energy to transfer to all areas in your life. As a reminder, harmony takes two! So, if you have not achieved harmony within yourself, you will not be able to give.
Be mindful of your state of mind! Wherever our energy flows, we create! When creating harmony within our relationships you MUST develop the mindset/state of mind that it's possible!! Releasing all negative thoughts and only leading with what you want! The Universe only understands energy, whether it’s positive or negative. The thoughts you release will create your reality.
Give!! Relationships are not about receiving, but about giving. When you genuinely offer harmony into your relationship, you will also receive it! Energy is like a boomerang. So, give what you want to receive! Be mindful as stated earlier, if you’re genuinely creating/giving harmony and your partner is unable to give it back (after trying a few times!) your partner may not be in the mental, emotional, and/or spiritual space/state to give it back to you!!
This step is important. There will be relationships where the other party, for whatever reason, will not be able to work with you to create harmony in your relationship. It’s important to understand that they must be willing to create with you(adults). If they are not willing, it is up to you if you continue to stay active in that relationship. I will say that if you do choose to stay, work on the other relationships in your life and stay focused on doing the work within yourself. Hopefully, the other party will see the energy shift in your other relationships and decide they want that same energy with you. Be realistic with your relationships. In my personal journey, I discovered that when I release unhealthy relationships that no longer serve me, I create more harmony with my higher self. I also noticed that I began to attract the people in my life that were willing and able to create harmony with me!! When you release what no longer serves you, you allow the space for new energy to enter your life!
As always, know that you have the ability to create what you seek, and you have the ability to heal yourself!
-Shameka Clark